Hope!

Best Decision? ~
Breaking up might have been your idea. It could be that you, your partner or both of you were caught in destructive behaviors that could only be stopped by ending your relationship.
Maybe there was abuse of some kind involved. Or perhaps the troubles in your relationship were less overtly damaging, but they seemed unresolvable and the dynamics were making you both miserable and unhappy.
As much as you know, deep down, that ending your relationship and moving on with your life was the “best” decision, your heart might feel broken. Even though this seems like the wisest decision for all involved, you may be having a difficult time truly letting go of your ex and the relationship.


Honor What You Feel ~
Human beings are complex creatures. Despite what is often portrayed in movies, none of us are one-dimensional. We all have “good” attributes and “bad” ones-- and many many other tendencies and characteristics that fall somewhere in-between.
If you are having a difficult time completely letting go of your ex, it makes sense. As hurtful and difficult as he or she might have been, it could also be the case that there were positive aspects about this person that you now miss.
And all of these conflicting memories and feelings are probably making you feel even more broken hearted!
We don't recommend that you force yourself to vilify your ex and we don't advise you to put him or her on some sort of pedestal of perfection either.
If you are feeling torn up inside with competing memories of your ex and your relationship, stop fighting with yourself.
It's perfectly okay to acknowledge that the two of you shared some wonderful times together and also that you shared some horrible times together. Just allow yourself to be with whatever comes up for you-- it doesn't have to be totally one or the other.
When you let yourself recognize that you, your ex and your relationship are all a mix of the “good,” the “bad” and the in-between, you can start to be more at peace with where you are.
You may find yourself relaxing a bit into what you are feeling because you are letting it flow rather than resisting it.

Credits: selfgrowth.com

Let Go? ~
So it's been over for a while. You've tried your best not to ring her or see her. Perhaps you've done the opposite, and sought her out at every opportunity, and rung her when you knew you shouldn't. Either way, you still can't stop thinking about her, and although you may have tried various ways to distract yourself, you can't get her out of your head. Unrequited love is frustrating, painful, and not that uncommon. I've watched quite a few of my close friends experience this kind of heartache to a horrendous degree. I too, have found myself pining pathetically away over a lost love. It's hard, and it hurts. But you can, and will eventually let her go and move on. (My own experience XD)

If the time comes and you still feel the love for her? Don't hesitate to give another chance and be happy once again. There is always hope. Ü

My Hope ~ Ü